While so much of my coaching and writing revolves around relationships and how to make the most of your communication and connection, it’s also important to acknowledge that a huge part of relationships is the one with yourself. 

We are often so distracted and busy, juggling a million balls, spending too much time on Instagram or Netflix or email, that we forget we can just talk about things.

In my therapy practice, I find that couples have worse fights if either or both have been drinking. 

They say Disney is the happiest place on earth and Christmas is their most loved holiday… but are they really?! 

It’s easy to take sides when you get that call from your bestie, letting the swear words fly:…

Sometimes it’s hard to know what to say, especially when someone tells you something that’s intense, scary, sad, or awful.

If you’re living with your spouse or long term partner, chances are you have figured out a way to negotiate chores around the house. Chances are also that some of the chores or the delegation of them can cause arguments or friction between the two of you.

I can’t tell you how often friends of mine and clients share similar stories of jumping to the idea of divorce after a fight. While divorce can be a viable option in some cases, it often doesn’t have to be.

There are many people out there (maybe even you?) who don’t know what’s going on with their finances. Oftentimes the financial responsibility falls onto one of the spouses in a couple, while the other stays in the dark. 

It’s common to struggle during these times of transition. We resist the change. We want to hold onto summer, to our single life, to the kids before they leave for college… 

In my experience, therapy can be preventative medicine, not just for when things go wrong. It’s a way to create flow, ease, understanding, and learning about your partner. 

Who you marry is one of the most important decisions you will ever make, but the friends we make and keep are equally important.

Having space without the kids means going back to the time before you were married before you had all these responsibilities, when you could actually date each other AND enjoy downtime alone. 

What if we dated our spouses once a week and had an affair with them instead of with someone outside of the relationship?

Feelings are never going to be logical. They are a sensation that comes with an emotion that has a chemical response in our bodies. And it’s a good thing to feel them! 

You don’t mean to yell at your husband when he buys the wrong chicken, but you do because you’re having people for dinner and you’re under stress and now it’s too late to follow the recipe you had in mind. You get angry and you show it. 

No matter who it’s with, conflict is what builds our strength and connection, while avoidance damages it. 

In any relationship, be it with a partner or a friend, there is bound to be a time when one person hurts the other, often unintentionally. 

Last week we covered how to stay sane when traveling WITH your partner; this week we’re talking about what to do when you travel separately from your partner.

So what are we supposed to do when each partner is so diametrically different? What happens when our views on travel time or anything else are in conflict with our favorite person in the whole world? Chances are it’s a little bumpy.