Let’s talk about nagging

 

Don’t you just hate being nagged by your partner? It feels awful on both sides: to be the one asking the questions, or to be the one being asked. It’s like listening to a broken record!

Here’s an interesting question to ask yourself:

Why do you put yourself in a position to be nagged?

In other words, why are you letting it get to the point where they have to keep asking? 

What if you simply did what they were asking and didn’t forget about it? 

Because here’s the thing: when someone asks you to do something, it’s really a bid for connection. When you receive that bid and act upon it, you’re not just getting something off the to-do list, you’re enhancing emotional connection, building trust, and creating a stronger bond in your relationship. Plus, there’s a lot less nagging!

It’s an opportunity to tell your partner, “I love you” - not just with your words, but with your actions. 

Did you know that, according to Dr. John Gottman’s research with couples, in successful marriages, the “Magic Ratio” is 5:1. That’s five positive interactions (including affirmations, agreements, or supportive responses) for every negative one. Couples who had that ratio were more likely to make it in the long haul. 

Wooden blocks spelling out the word "YES" in bold black letters are arranged on a wooden surface. Other blurred blocks are scattered in the background. In the bottom right corner, the logo "ad andrea dindinger" is visible.
 

That’s a great reason to say YES to your partner’s bids more often! 

And of course, there needs to be grace on both sides. Grace for the one who’s asking, and grace for the one who’s being asked. But remember: when you respond quickly, it sends the message that you love your partner, that they matter, and what they care about matters too.

Maybe share this with the person you nag?! 

I’m rooting for you. Take good care.

 

P.S. Want an easy way to share this with your partner? Send them this video!

 
 

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Andrea Dindinger