My client had just told her friend how much she looooooves her dog, and that was her friend’s response. 

When our partner responds with a No or an eye-roll, it’s easy to interpret as them not listening, caring, or loving us. It’s not true, but that’s the interpretation. 

Whether the answer is yes or no, let’s normalize the question. When you do, you not only develop a new relationship with your own ability to ask and receive, but you get to model it for your partner and any children you might have. 

I was thrilled to talk to James Lott Jr about all of this and more, on his podcast A Lott of Help. We talk about my best dating strategies for singles, plus how to navigate communication in couples. 

In romantic relationships in particular, which is what we’re here to talk about, the festering anger or frustration is very likely to be aimed at your partner in conscious or unconscious ways if it’s not addressed.